together can take on a different form. It’s trips to the grocery store,
the park, or spending dinner together at the table with the child who
may be crying at the top of his lungs or giggling so loud you can’t
think straight. But when they aren’t with you, you start to miss the
Sacrifice is a part of love.
Never expect to finish your candy bar, ice cream, or cookie alone. What’s yours is theirs. Not only treats, but date nights can be put on hold due to a sick child. “Netflix and chill” actually means your partner is cuddling with their child as Finding Dory plays in the background.
You make every conscious decision to give that child the life they deserve.
Respect is a two-way street.
A good parent will never let their child disrespect you. Just as a good parent will never involve themselves with someone who disrespects their child.
This child deserves to see a healthy relationship between
the two of you. They also deserve to see you treat their parent with
respect. You are both modeling a healthy relationship to this child.
There’s an adjustment period.
Your life changes completely. You form your own little world when you’re single, one where you don’t have to take care of or report to anyone other than yourself. Before you met your partner, your nights were silent and peaceful. Now, they are loud and chaotic. Your afternoons are spent picking up Cheerios and tying shoes.
Just as your life changes drastically, and you need to navigate your way through it, so does this child. It will take time for them to understand what’s going on.
Why is daddy with you and not mommy? Or vice versa. You’ll talk to the child and help them understand… this part is never easy.
Let them know who you are to them. Reassure them that you are in love with their parent and you are there for them. It may take them years from now for them to appreciate you or warm up to you but as long as you’re good to them, you’re doing it right.
You need to be more serious.
You need to really make sure that you want to be with this person. Because technically, you aren’t just dating them, you are also dating their child too.