When going through a divorce, it can feel like you’re walking around with a scarlet D on your chest, but it’s important to remember that divorce doesn’t define you and it doesn’t mean you’re a failure.
Just thinking about starting all over again can make your head spin. It’s easy to get caught up in wondering what others will think and where you’re supposed to go from here.
But the only direction you can go is up. The whole beautiful world is open for you to explore however you see fit.
Once you get over the initial waves of shock and heartache, several things will remind you that you haven’t hit a dead end, but simply a roadblock that you can (and will) get through.
You’re independent again, but now you’re so much wiser.
We’re lucky enough to be part of a generation full of independent individuals who realize we don’t need to rely on anyone else to be happy or taken care of.
We no longer have to sacrifice our happiness to fit into some cookie cutter definition of a happy life, one focused on reproduction and upholding old-fashioned ideas.
Divorce shows you what it takes to fight for a relationship and how to be mature when it’s really come to an end. You begin to understand yourself better and see how much you’ve grown through the experience.
It helps you identify the people who will stand beside you and lift you up through hard times. You come to realize how much you have to offer and who is truly on your team.
You’ve ditched the distractions, so focus on achieving your dreams.
Be it a hobby, charity work, or a career change, divorce offers you the opportunity to rededicate yourself to pursuing the dreams you’ve put on the back burner.
Like any other break up, the post-divorce period really is a time to focus on yourself. Figure out your goals and plans to achieve them. Reassess your boundaries and make sure you’re on the path you want.
Focus your excess energy on positive things, be they places you want to visit or a degree you want to pursue. Divorce can sap your confidence, work towards something for yourself and watch it replenish over time.
You don’t have to answer to anyone else now, so make sure you have a loving, supportive relationship with yourself so you can truly live your best life.